First Impressions
Mean a lot. Including what you might say or do. Actions, reactions, speech, etc are all relevant.
Am I rude?
I already admit to being a know-it-all but I always felt that I was a humble know-it-all. I wasn’t an in your face know-it-all. And, yeah, I can be blunt enough that it might be interpreted as rudeness, but I never have been intentionally rude, at least not to coworkers or people I associate with daily.
That so confuses me.
We got a new engineer at work, a few years of experience a head of me, going for his P.E. And maybe he just told me what caused the above rambling to ruffle my feathers and test me. Or maybe he’s confusing me with other people.
I can find so many reasons to justify my so not rudeness!
…can somebody prove me wrong?
As for the new engineer… prissy boy, that’s what I would currently describe him as… let’s hope he proves people wrong. Wait… would writing something like that make me rude?
You will probably find that nearly everybody has these rude opinions, it’s whether or not you keep them to yourself or the way in which you express them is what makes the difference.
Take ‘prissy boy’ for example, this is something I may use to describe this new boy but I would never share this with anyone because I don’t know him well enough but as you can see I did have a first impression just like you.
Does this make you a more judgmental person than me, no, absolutely not, it’s your character and what makes you the lovely person you are (don’t change). This brings me onto my second thought. Why is it that I can say ‘lovely person’ without knowing you and you can’t say ‘prissy boy’, both are criticisms, positive and negative.
Another example and then I’ll shut up before you’re rude to me: If someone in your office has smelly armpits, do you call them stinkyboy, do you tell them politely that they have am interesting odor or do you do nothing.
Comment by Rick — May 9, 2008 @ 12:40 am
Thanks Rick. That actually cheered me up. Everyone will have a first impression, its whether or not they stick to it or give that person a chance to change their mind. I actually think he was getting irritated with me because I kept answering the questions on the slide before he did (we were in training). I was trying to give him time to think it over, but he was taking to long to chip in his 2 cents.
I don’t think I could ever be rude to you. Most likely, the coworker and I have a good relationship and I would be teasing them about the smelly armpits, otherwise I wouldn’t say anything
Comment by lore — May 9, 2008 @ 7:19 am